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Pop quiz:

Do you know what my first paid work was after graduating high school?

I worked as a youth facilitator, traveling around the province of British Columbia doing workshops for high school students, and also for YouthCO AIDS Society, Canada’s only entirely youth-led HIV/AIDS organization.

I have always loved group dynamics. I love the chemistry between a group of people with different experiences coming together to create a unique and transformative experience.

It’s impossible to predict exactly what will happen and there’s a beauty in that.

So much learning.

So much healing.

The training I received from my early days as a youth facilitator lives inside of me.

I then went on to work with groups of people around the world, community members, government officials, policy makers, activists from Ukraine to the Philippines.

When I launched my health coaching business, I was so grateful to be able to work online with clients from around the world from my little office in Southern Mexico (I still am profoundly grateful about this).

AND - after several years, I found myself CRAVING in-person experiences. Once my daughter was old enough, I started traveling again so that I could participate in trainings, retreats, masterminds, and conferences.

AND - I started hosting powerfully transformative events in Mexico.

In the past year and a half, I have hosted three life-changing retreats and am gearing up for the 4th this November.

Lucir: We only have several spots still available so please get in touch asap if this interests you.

If you want to dive deep into self-care, create new habits to take home with you, learn gentle movements and meditations to infuse your life back home, this is for you!

There’s a reason why we currently have FIVE “returnees” already confirmed and are expecting a least one more to come back.

And now, drumroll please….

Announcing my newest and highly anticipated offering and collaboration: The Sensual Alchemy Retreat!!

Tatianna and I truly are a match made in sensual alchemy heaven.

We met almost 5 years ago when we were both in a mastermind preparing to launch our businesses. We’ve since spent time together in NYC and I participated in a retreat that she offered in Woodstock.

This experience is designed to help you reconnect and reignite your feminine essence and step fully into your power.

This is NOT about sex. (I happen to be practicing sexual sobriety at the moment)

This is about connecting with your essence, reigniting power and passion, and redefining sensuality, for yourself.

We’re hosting an FB live next Thursday at 10am PST/1pm EST to talk about everything sensuality related and we’d love for you to join (whether or not you are interested in the coming to the retreat, this is going to be an amazing conversation). I will send the invitation next week.

If you have any questions, please let me know beforehand and I will answer you privately and then Tatianna and I can also discuss your Qs in our conversation (don’t worry, we can keep the Qs confidential).

We have early bird pricing until Labour Day. Check out www.sensualalchemyretreat.com for more info.

The incredible humans I have connected with during in-person events in the past couple of years (both the events I’ve hosted and events I’ve participated in) have become some of the most important relationships of my life.

It is an incredible thing to feel truly SEEN and unconditionally loved and supported by a group of people as committed to your own healing, growth and transformation as they are to their own.

Many of the retreat participants have also formed their own groups where they check in with each other regularly and maintain the connections they formed while together in Mexico.

I am also infusing ALL of the in-person work I do with the neuro-transformational and embodiment work that I have been studying for the past year.  It’s hard to put into words exactly how powerful this work is but let me just tell you, I have now seen dozens of people go home CHANGED in ways more profound than they ever imagined possible. There’s a reason for this. We are limited by our own imaginations (ie our own minds).

When we get out of our comfort zone, step into an environment 100% designed to facilitating healing, growth and change, with skilled coaches, facilitators and healers, NEW POSSIBILITIES become available - because of this unique chemistry.

I won’t say more at this point other than the fact I believe coming to an in-person experience is one of the most important things you could do for yourself. Full stop.

Message me asap for more info on either of these experiences.

I hope to hug you IRL

by Caitlin Padgett

It's Time To Live Full Out (Don't Waste Another Second Because You Never Know)

Imagine.

You're driving along a country road in the morning. Sun shining and enhancing the vibrant greens and brilliant blues around you.

Laughing with the love of your life, your hand on their leg as you drive into day 1 of a month-long road trip that feels in a way like the beginning of the rest of your lives together.

You’ve committed, you’re going all in, you finally know you’re ready to give this adventure of growing old together a shot.

Then, crash.

Everything you thought you knew changes in an instant.

This is exactly what happened to my father a little over a week ago.

In his words, “One moment, we were high on life and in love, the next minute- then... boom.”

A car ran a stop sign, plowing straight into the driver’s side of my dad’s car. His girlfriend, who was behind the wheel, died in the crash.

As I stroked my father’s hair and the drops of our tears bled together into rivers down the hospital blue sheets… I felt simultaneous overwhelming gratitude for his life and grief for his loss.

I was reminded, as we usually are when tragedy strikes the ones we love the most, of how fleeting life can be, that there are no guarantees. To make every moment count.

I’ve read these memes and Hallmark cards, and I know you have too.

Yet, I’m going to ask you a hard question << Test First Name >>, do you really do this?

Do you really make every moment count?

I know I don’t.

I still get stuck in fear.

I allow old stories and pain to continue to define me.

I hold on to resentments.

I let my ego stop me from playing full out.

What was incredible about the timing of this accident is that I left the hospital to travel to Irvine, California to get my certification in neuro-transformational coaching.

I entered a five-day long vortex, where we agreed on Day 1 not to check our phones, to “stay in the room” (as much as we were triggered and wanted to run), to show up and play full out.

The days were long. (a “short” day was 10 hours, our longest was 17 hours long).

We confronted our deepest fears, released old stories, asked the question “what wouldlove do?”

In doing so, we forgave abusers, the parents and siblings who had abandoned us, we forgave ourselves for years of self-publishment and judgment, we healed years of trauma. We shed layers and layers of guilt, regret, shame, and pain. We held space for each other to cry, scream, wail, release.

We opened ourselves up to each other’s unconditional love.

It was powerful and life-changing.

It was the desire of that hallmark card sentiment put into action.

Here’s my invitation to you, << Test First Name >>.

I learned so many tools for transformation in the past week.

I also received a powerful reality check to live each moment fully, because it could be mine or someone else's last.

I am committed to continuing to play full out - are you?

I am inviting you to join me and 2 others (I’m taking 3 people max) for a neuro-transformational mastermind.

I will guide you through the processes for healing, shedding, releasing, and reframing that I learned this past week.

You will emerge a different person, just as myself and 22 others did this past week.

The focus? Finally letting go of that thing that’s keeping you stuck, repeating similar patterns.

I’ll give you an example from my own life. Over the years, I’ve redefined my relationship to alcohol, I’ve stopped abusing drugs and my body, I’ve released my need for perfection and overwork as a distraction, I’ve started to understand co-dependency and how I use other people to keep me from myself and my own pain.

The story that underlines it all? That I am damaged and unloveable.

I “intellectually” knew this, yet my body still held ferociously to the story.

As long as I believed this to be true, I could do the hurting/the leaving/the self-sabotaging before someone else had the chance to. I picked partners who criticized me and didn’t love the whole me. I also realized this week that I have never really shown the whole me to anyone… therefore continually reinforcing the story to myself, that no one could love the whole me (including the damaged parts).

Don’t know what your “thing” is? It’s okay, we’ll help you figure it out.

To be honest, I haven’t thought through the exact format yet, though we will likely be meeting on Zoom every two weeks for the next 3-6 months, and will have a WhatsApp group for intra-session communication.

What I know for sure is that this powerful work is alive in my cells and at the forefront of my consciousness.

What I know for sure is that I personally don’t want to waste any more time stuck in fear and attached to old stories.

What I know for sure is that I don’t want to die before I have fully loved and been loved wholly.

If this interests you, send me a message asap and tell me WHY. Remember, I’m only inviting 3 people into this beta mastermind and I want to start as soon as possible, the momentum I’m feeling is REAL, and it’s a disservice to myself and the people who join to wait too long.

If you want to deep dive but the thought of doing it in a group turns you off, I’ve got a few spots available for private coaching, and I can take you through the same processes. Send me a message and let me know why you’re ready to go all in with me 1-1.

Let's commit to making every moment count, shall we?

by Caitlin Padgett

Liver cancer on the rise

I've been thinking about the "scare straight" approach, and why it doesn't jive with me (or with science, more on that later).

I’m not into scare tactics, never have been.

I remember in high school how angry I felt when the police officers came to give an anti-drug presentation.

They spread out a body bag on the floor and then had a volunteer (a student!) from the audience come up in front of everybody. They basically said that if you smoked marijuana, you would end addicted to heroin and on the street (and don’t worry, they had a slideshow depicting the most addiction-ravaged people they could find, sitting on the streets with needles stuck in their arms) and would probably end up dead.

Then they asked the volunteer to climb into the body bag and they asked us to imagine how his friends and family would feel.

I was enraged, and marched into my guidance counsellors office, shaking with anger and tears streaming down my face. Even at that age, I knew that a presentation like this could traumatize some kids while having very little effect on the actual outcomes they were striving for, ie stopping kids from using drugs.

And of course, these one-off “scared straight” type programs have since been proven ineffective in actually reducing teen drug use and have actually shown to backfiredcomplete when it comes to milder drugs like weed and cigarettes.

I was sitting at the office yesterday when I friend sent me this article about the increasing number of deaths related to liver disease (and alcohol).

As I read through it, I immediately thought two things.

First, that I wanted to share it with you… because it’s important and yes, dare I say, “sobering” information about what constitutes binge drinking and the effect it has on your liver.

Immediately following that thought was, “I can see how the “scared-straight” peeps could take this and run with it…”

Sure enough, while I was scrolling through social media before bed last night (not part of my regular bedtime routine - I was actually doing it intentionally), I saw leaders in the "sober" communities sharing this article as evidence as to why alcohol is evil and should be abstained from completely.

And then in the comments under their posts, I saw responses like:

“See, this is why we should NEVER DRINK.”

“OMG, and yet the article still talks about moderation, AS IF IT’S EVER A GOOD IDEA TO DRINK.”

“This article writes about how alcohol is poisoning your liver and then tells us it’s okay to drink, WTF, it’s NOT.”

And also people who were reading these comments and were genuinely really concerned and fearful about the damage they may have caused their livers, and I could see them spiralling down a rabbit hole of worry and regret.

Yes, this surge of liver cancer and the studies showing how alcohol can affect us IS scary, but remember, knowledge is power. 

If you’re worried about something, go get your liver functioning checked, and make the necessary changes!  Unless you have advanced cirrhosis, most liver damage IS reversible.

(fun fact, when I was 20 years old I was hired as the coordinator for YouthCO AIDS Society’s provincial Hepatitis C program… so I actually know A LOT about the liver!! Questions - ask me!!)

If you are worried about the potential of liver damage and how your drinking might have contributed, use this information as the motivation to make some changes, whether or not you are ready, or even want to, stop drinking completely.

If you read this article and realize that sometimes you drink to the extent that would be considered ‘binge drinking’  (4 or more drinks in one sitting) then consider reducing the amount that you drink in a sitting by at least one drink. For example, if you’re used to drinking 5 drinks in a night out, the next time you go out, try for 4, or 3.

If you read this article and are worried that your daily drinking might be taking its toll on your liver, try reducing the amount you drink daily by half a glass, then a glass, or taking a day off to start, then two.

To help you get started, I’m sharing the worksheets that were previously reserved for my private clients. In these worksheets, you can create your vision of what you’d like your relationship to alcohol to look like, understand what needs were being met by alcohol, and how to create an “alcohol agreement” with yourself to stick to your new intentions.

Once you’ve completed the first worksheets, you may realize you want to go deeper into the journey of “redefining sobriety” aka your relationship to alcohol. I designed the Redefining Sobriety Self-Study program specifically with this in mind. In this 8-week program, you will be guided through pre-recorded videos and worksheets to create strategies that work for you and create lasting change. You can click here to read more about the self-study program and get started today.

If you’d like SUPPORT around how to do this, please reach out. I always love connection calls and have opened up some extra time in my calendar next week.

This is EXACTLY what I do - provide non-judgemental support and tailor strategies to meet your unique experiences and desires for yourself and your relationship to alcohol.

Again, knowledge is power.

Remember that your body is beautiful and strong and resilient and WANTS optimal health.

The last thing I want is for you to spiral into a pit of shame and feel paralyzed by regret. We’ve all done things that were harmful to our bodies but there is nothing you can do to change the past other than forgive yourself for the choices you made then, and start to choose differently now.

That's what I'm here to support you with.

Cheers to healthier livers, and lives!! 

by Caitlin Padgett

Neurobiology Of Change

The first few paragraphs of this blog were adapted from an article on Psychology Today about why we resist change… and how specifically this relates to our habitual relationship with alcohol.

The steps to making meaningful life changes are implicated by areas of the brain that control our habits and conscious decision-making abilities. Our basal ganglia in the ancestral or primitive brain are responsible for “wiring” habits. This cluster of nerve cell bodies is involved in functions such as automatic or routine behaviors (e.g., habits) that we are familiar with or that make us feel good. Such behaviors might include nail biting, smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol habitually or following the same routine every day without making changes to it.

Social and Personality Researcher Dr Erin Baker describes this process further:  In addition to the basal ganglia, each time a behavior feels good, there is a bit of a dopamine rush. That dopamine rush motivates future behaviors, and as the behavior is repeated, basically dopamine facilitates neurons "connecting" that reinforce the habit. Basically the whole mantra of " neurons that fire together, wire together".

Habits like exercise form when we perform a certain behavior in a specific environment or context. When we do something like put a seatbelt on (an action) when we get into a car (a contextual cue), we develop automaticity, or an automatic behavior in response to the contextual cue. In the “Psychology of Habit,” Wendy Wood and Dennis Rünger from the department of psychology at UCLA wrote that while some of this automatic cuing may be unintentional, deliberately cuing ourselves could help us to engage in particular habits.

Just as coming home after a stressful day at work might have become a “cue” for habitual response such as pouring a glass of wine, we can create new habitual responses. It will take a bit more work initially, because we are activating a different part of the brain and have to engage in conscious action planning for awhile, until this new response or activity becomes a new habit.

Any type of change like incorporating a physical activity into our routine after a period of being sedentary can go against the neural pathways that have become automatic to us. That is why we tend to fall back on our default or automatic behaviors when we try to implement changes like a new diet or physical activity after a period of inactivity.

Although we can consciously control the decision to work out, this is the responsibility of a separate region of the brain known as the neocortex, which controls conscious decision-making in the brain. Our conscious actions require much more effort. If we want to overcome a lack of motivation and other obstacles that are getting in the way of our success, frequent exercise and conscious action planning are involved in making an exercise habit stick, according to Lena Fleig and colleagues(2013).

This is where accountability becomes critical for your behaviour change relate to alcohol. As I frequently say to my clients, “if nothing changes, nothing changes…” You CAN change your relationship to alcohol the same way you change another habitual pattern (as long as there is no physical dependence).

Creating a reward system can also help motivate change in the beginning. Rewards will trigger dopamine, which feels good. Eventually, following through on the new behaviour starts to feel so good that the reward is no longer as necessary. Charles Duhigg describes this in his book, "The Power of Habit." The cue - behavior - reward system, and so it's equally important to reward yourself for creating a new behavior as it is to have a cue. Interestingly, at some point the brain wires so that the behavior itself actually becomes rewarding and the reward is no longer needed.

In her interview for the Redefining Sobriety Summit, Dr Delafield Heinrici, a Board Certified Addictions Physician, talks about the importance of creating change in other aspects of your life (which can help with the neuro-”cueing”) and having other supports in place to help with accountability and motivation for change.

Remember, change is hard… we are literally hard-wired to resist it.

This is why accountability systems are so important, whether they be “cues” like programming reminders in your phone or scheduling alternative activities during times you are more likely to habitually crave a drink, or reaching out to a friend at the same time each day (before you start to crave a drink or fall back into an unconscious habitual response). This is also why having unfailing and non-judgemental support, with a combination of evidence-based strategies (based on information like you’ve just read) and practical, lived experience - is essential. I offer all of this and more in my consultations, and the first one is always free. I look forward to connecting!

by Caitlin Padgett