It’s “that” time of year again when a certain Hallmark holiday rolls around. Yes, the one that is potentially really triggering whether or not you are partnered.
I wanted to pop in here real quick to remind you about how loveable you are. How deserving of love you are. How perfect you are. How proud of you I am! (because you’re here, you’re doing the work, you’ve shown up – you’re reading this email!)
I was interviewed for a podcast a couple of days ago and we spoke a lot about the concept of Radical Self Love. Because really truly loving ourselves for exactly who we are IS radical. It’s something not many of us are taught.
It takes practice.
It takes intention.
It takes showing up.
Sometimes, it requires having friends and supporters around us to remind us when we forget or feel like we’ve somehow F-up again.
Sometimes, Radical Self-Love is about what we do for ourselves (ie Radical Self Care) because connecting with that feeling of self-love can be hard sometimes… so we commit to actions and rituals to SHOW our love for ourselves.
What are some examples?
Well, of course, drinking less or not at all.
Taking good care of your body.
Getting enough sleep.
Moving in ways that feel gooooood for your body and not like punishment.
Giving yourself permission.
Setting clear boundaries.
Communicating honestly.
Alone time.
Morning and/or evening practices.
Connecting with your desires and honouring them by writing them down.
Which of these self-care/self-loving practices do you want to recommit to?
What can you DO for yourself today to SHOW yourself LOVE?
Just over a week ago I was sitting with a friend and we slipped into complaining and feeling ambivalent about Valentine’s Day and the options available to us.
Gratefully, we were able to switch gears and turn our frustration into fuel to create the exact experience that we wanted. So today I’ll be celebrating with fresh juices, and mocktails and we’ve created love-themed cocktails though I’ve set my intention not to drink at all, and tasty healthy treats, and my favourite local band and dj, and a dance party and pool party with all of my favourite people and raising money for a good cause (the vets who provide free sterilization and education campaigns for street dogs and low-income folks in our community to get their pets fixed or to receive medical attention). Basically, most of the things I love doing all packed into one evening.
Now, I’m not saying that YOU need to go out and become an event planner 😉 however, I am sharing this example of how getting clear on your desires and taking action can be a form of loving yourself AND being proactive about getting your needs met.
Also, if you’re feeling really down – altruism has been shown to activate the same part of your brain that receives pleasure from social attachment and bonding – so get out there and be of service if you’re feeling low about your relationship status this year (again, that goes for whether or not you’re in a relationship!)
Something I love about where I live in Mexico is that the 14th is celebrated as “El dia del amor y la amistad” = the day of love AND friendship.
I will definitely be taking time today to let me friends know how much they mean to me because really, I wouldn’t be here if it weren’t for the incredible, strong, intuitive, open-minded and hearted, inspiring humans who have repeatedly shown up for me and loved me even when I was having a hard time loving myself.
On that note, sending YOU lots of love and endless gratitude for being here.